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Dating Confidence - Dating And Sexual Confidence Series Part 1: How To Stop Worrying About Rejection Dating including sexual confidence gives you several advantages. Confidence in initiating including maintaining contact with the opposite sex, confidence in assertively competing against potential rivals, including confidence that you might satisfy the opposite sex’s criteria for a sexual partner. If you lack the confidence, you can’t initiate contact let alone compete against a potential rival. Every time you think of approaching a woman you run every possible negative scenario inside your head... other guys are better looking than me… what woman will need to be with me… what if I walk up to her including I have nothing interesting to say… what if she already has someone…. Who am kidding, I wouldn't have a chance… what if she doesn’t pick up the phone… on including on… You repeat these negative thoughts over including over inside your mind until you actually manage to talk yourself out of having to go up to a woman. For many men, the torture doesn’t stop there. They actually beat themselves up for fearing rejection. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I be like so-and-so? Why do I fear rejection so much I must be a loser etc” Rather than force yourself to try stop worrying regarding rejection, consider the very worst that could happen. “Well, if I go up to her, I might be rejected. I will be so embarrassed I will have to obtain out of here. Then I will go home including pour myself a actually strong drink, absolutely no make it two, may be three. I don’t think I’ll be able to forget the experience including every time I think regarding it I’d have to drink myself silly just to numb the pain. Pretty soon I’d be a bum on skid row. I’d be so ashamed I’d have to move to another city, where I wouldn’t have …” keep going until you see the absurdity of your predictions. After you stop chuckling, ask yourself, “Can I live with that?” What is extraordinary regarding the way of approaching rejection is that it is so pragmatic in that it has the effect of freeing the mind from its usual habits of thinking. including rather than trying to run away from rejection, it becomes much more easier to walk right into it, including face it.
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